On the other hand, telling your brother that he could update his wardrobe if he wants to attract women -- and offering to help him -- shows that you're honest and positive, without being mean. Telling siblings what they should do isn't the only way that brothers can show stellar communication skills. A good brother is an active listener, takes in what his siblings have to say and processes it before responding.
Active listening involves paying attention to what the other person is saying to understand his point of view, according to the article "Families First -- Keys to Successful Family Functioning: Communication" on the Virginia Cooperative Extension website.
Based in Pittsburgh, Erica Loop has been writing education, child development and parenting articles since She has a Master of Science in applied developmental psychology from the University of Pittsburgh's School of Education.
By: Erica Loop. Models Good Behavior One of the most positive ways a brother can affect his siblings is by being a positive role model. Is Closer Than a Friend Although friends may change over time, a good brother is there for the long haul, according to counselor Raychelle Cassada Lohmann on the Psychology Today website.
Is Honest Yet Tactful Honesty is an essential part of any healthy relationship. Has a Good Ear Telling siblings what they should do isn't the only way that brothers can show stellar communication skills. The Roles of Older Siblings. List of Examples of Older Siblings The Importance of a Father in a Teenage If your brother is annoying you, temporarily ignore him instead of lashing out in anger. Alternatively, give your brother positive attention instead of yelling at him.
He might just be bored, so do something fun together like going for a bike ride or watching a movie. For more help, like how to stay calm when your brother is being annoying, read on. Did this summary help you?
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Article Summary. Part 1. Ignore your brother rather than responding. If your brother is being difficult, you may have to try temporarily ignoring him. This isn't a very effective strategy for long-term sibling relationships, but if you want to avoid lashing out in anger, the best response is to just ignore him. If anything, it takes more strength and willpower to resist lashing out at your brother or sinking to his antics. Remember that you have to pick and choose your battles.
You can't engage with your brother every single time he annoys you, especially if he's not very communicative. If you don't give your brother the response he wants getting upset or irritated , he'll tire himself out eventually and give up on it.
Remain calm if you do respond. If your brother is annoying you, you may be tempted to lash out at him in anger or respond with equally annoying behavior. However, that type of reaction will only make things worse. Any time you feel an urge to respond with harsh words or annoying behavior, remember that being calm and collected is more likely to break your brother out of his annoying behavior than getting angry.
Keep your focus on your breathing pattern to calm down quickly. Take deep breaths in and out during that second count and try to think about how to express yourself calmly and rationally. Go for a short walk or leave the room for a few minutes if you need to compose yourself for longer than 10 seconds. Let your brother know you'll be right back, and think about what you want to say and how best to say it.
Compromise with your brother. Any time you can negotiate a peaceful resolution with your brother, you should try to do so. Sometimes that may require compromising on some aspect of the situation or even putting your brother's needs before yours for a short period.
Ultimately, though, this will help de-escalate the situation and may help prevent future conflicts. Let your brother feel heard and validated and try to rephrase the things he says. Say something like, "I think I understand where you're coming from. Ask your brother for input, offer your input, and try to compromise. Recognize that no one is going to get their way all the time. The goal is to solve that both you and your brother feel somewhat satisfied with, even if it's not the solution you'd hoped for.
Give your brother positive attention. A common cause of annoying sibling behavior is simple boredom. Perhaps your brother is bored or feels like he's not getting enough attention. Instead of giving him negative attention by fighting back or engaging in your annoying behavior, try doing something fun and productive together. Doing something fun together should take your brother's attention away from being annoying pretty quickly, and it might help the two of you bond over the shared experience.
Try going for a walk or riding bikes together if you're still young, make sure you get your parents' permission first , or do something indoors like watching a movie, putting together a puzzle, or playing video games together although this may cause more fights. However, at the end of the day, your brother is still your sibling, and he does care about you.
Let your brother know that he's upsetting you and try to find a resolution, but don't take it personally. Some people especially at a younger age just don't know any better. Remember that by letting your brother's behavior upset you, you're giving him all the power. Part 2. Recognize that jealousy may be causing annoying behavior.
If your brother is jealous of some aspect of your life, he may be acting out as a way of expressing his frustration. If you think this may be the case, you may want to at least attempt to have a direct and honest conversation with your brother about how his jealousy hurts your feelings and makes things difficult between you. Is it possible he's jealous of your grades, your possessions, or your lifestyle?
Your brother is probably motivated by a simple urge to vent his frustrations. If your brother is jealous because something you're doing now takes away from the time you used to spend together, the best way to calm his feelings may be to spend more time with him. However, it's important to set your limits and boundaries, and let him know that he needs to respect them. Find ways to make your brother happy. Your brother's jealousy is probably related to not getting enough attention. If you make him feel better about himself by finding things to feel good about, it might help snap him out of his jealous streak.
That might help curb his annoying behavior, at least temporarily. Give credit to your brother for the things he's good at. If I were to head out to a bar in Paris or Rome or Bejing or Moscow, chances are, out of the blue, my brother would walk in. Because they are there. Our lives are intrinsically linked beyond mere buzzwords like love, duty, or friendship. Dave and I are wrapped around separate bones, watching the world go by through different sets of eyes and all, but none of that really matters because we share a soul.
So in that spirit, I wanted to write about brotherhood. Then check out 9 reasons your sister is the most important woman in your life. My brother will always take a minute to check out some song I absolutely need him to hear, simply because I love it so much and I really want him to love it, too.
With most people, your own personal joy about something as simple as a song is rarely infectious to the point where they either: a give a damn or b actually track down the song and buy it, in attempt to share in your latest musical freakout. Brothers remind us of a time in our life when we knew what really mattered.
If you grew up with a brother and you were reasonably close in age, then no matter whether you were a sister or a bro yourself, you probably spent entire summers riding around on bikes, climbing construction site dirt piles, drinking cans of Dr.
That feeling was probably the best any of us ever had. Brothers, the best ones anyway, they never ever forget.
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